My mom just got out of the hospital after having her knee replaced. I took her there last week to have the procedure done. She says I am "her person". "Your person" is the person in your life who you can call on to do the tough stuff. Someone you trust to know what to remind the doctors or nurses before treatment, to speak for you when you're under anaesthesia, to know who to call if something goes wrong, what to do, how to deal with an emergency.
You may have a few people who fit that criteria- call it 'your people'. When you're in a hospital, you definitely need them. Being there recently, reminded me of the myriad of issuesI dealt with in my multiple surgeries and treatments. The worst issue was the medications. I feel like a druggie when I would go through the pre-op discussions telling them exactly what I needed. Zofran is a must for surgery. Morphine or Vicodin are my top pain meds, forget the Percocet or Demerol. Give me Xanax in the evening for sleep. Of course, after I was in my room, I would have to have that discussion over and over again. It was maddening how often the lines of communication got criss-crossed.
The biggest lesson I learned about surgery was staying ahead of the pain. It seems as though they don't want to give you pain meds anymore on a schedule. They wait until you ask for it. When you're recuperating it's tough to keep track of the meds, but you have to. I would write down when I took a pill and then ask for it when I could safely take it again. I learned that after a few experiences where I nodded off, only to awake to terrible pain and begging for relief.
Thank God for the great nurses who make you feel better during a bad situation. I had one real funny lady answer my call in the middle of the night at Geisinger in Danville back in 2007. I was miserable and in pain after my mastectomy, and having a hard time sleeping. She brought me an Ambien and a Xanax and told me to choose one of them. I picked the Xanax. After I took it, she smiled and said "If that doesn't work, I'll have to bring out the rubber mallot." I remember laughing out loud and soon fell asleep with a smile on my face.